How do you make your child feel better after
the world makes him feel bad?
Sometimes the world misunderstands your wonderful son or
daughter, and sends him or her into a tailspin. ADDitude readers
tell you how to lift your child up and dust him off.
at something, that usually does the trick.
Sometimes I do a silly dance or make a funny
face. Later, when he is calmer, we discuss his
Hardyston, Ne w Jersey
> I tell him that God doesn’t make junk.
Everyone is made the way they are for a reason. He needs to figure out what his purpose
is. I remind him that no one is perfect, and
admit some of my shortcomings to him.
> I hold him and tell him that I am thankful that God gave him to me, and that I
wouldn’t change a thing about him. Then we
go out for ice cream and a movie.
> I sit close, but not touching or looking
at her, repeating the names of everyone
who loves her. Eventually, I throw in a few
things like “your cat gives you fluffy love.”
This makes her smile.
> Remind him that we all know how great
he is, and one day the world will know that,
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Buy him something that
floats his boat!
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Elon, North Carolina
> Acknowledge anything, big or small,
that your kid does well.
> I explain to her that even though things
are hard sometimes, we are all stronger
than we think we are. I show her things that
only people with our “special brains” can do.
I remind her that she is not alone, that her
family is there. I do this while we cuddle on
> I ask him what is making him feel bad.
When I’ve listened for a bit, and he seems
ready, I talk about something he is interested
in. Then I give him “sideways” compliments, noting, as we talk, how good he is
at noticing details, remembering interesting information, or anything that I can
tie to the conversation.
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> I celebrate the way her brain works,
pointing out how hard she works to finish her homework, how creative she is,
and the entertaining solutions she comes
up with. She’s proud of her differences, and
this builds her up before the world can make
her feel bad.
> I remind him of what he has accom-
plished so far—and I just hug him.
> We joke a lot and don’t take the world so
seriously. If I can make him smile or laugh
> I do something active with him. We go
down to the beach to swim (he loves it) or
take a long bike ride.
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