affects every aspect of life. Even the
basics of self-care—hygiene and taking
Zits shows us the mess in Jeremy’s
bedroom, with clothes and papers
scattered everywhere. He loses things,
and he probably needed to replace his
winter coat in fourth grade—several
times. His tests don’t make it home to
his parents to get signed, and he didn’t
start brushing his teeth regularly until
he met Sara. His parents weren’t sure
he’d make it out of eighth grade.
>Challenges with emotions.; Frustration, intolerance, anger management,
and heightened sensitivity are problems for kids with ADHD. They have a
hard time handling disappointments.
Of course, they experience disappointments more than other kids, too.
Daffy Duck, in Looney Tunes, isn’t a
good sport. He wants things to go his
way, and throws tantrums when they
don’t. He is disappointed a lot. After
all, it’s hard to be constantly bested by
a smooth-talking bunny. He can’t admit
his mistakes. Daffy’s emotional
intensity leads to overreactions and
hijacking situations. It’s hard to feel
sorry for him when you’re so busy
being embarrassed by him.
When you see these kinds of
behaviors in your kids, think about
Peppermint Patty or even Daffy Duck.
Understand that this is how your child
is wired, and know that you’re not
alone. Your child needs help to change
these behaviors, and, with your
understanding and assistance, he will
change them, slowly but surely. A
ELAINE TAYLOR-KLAUS; and DIANE DEMPS;TER
are the co-founders of impactadhd.com,
providing training, coaching, and support, online
and on the phone, for parents of kids with ADHD.
This article is adapted from their new book,
Parenting ADHD Now! Easy Intervention Strategies to Empower Kids with ADHD.
FIVE TIPS FOR THE FIVE FACES OF ADHD
> AT TENTION “Get Attention Before Giving Direction”;
Make sure to get your child’s attention before you give instructions. Don’t holler across
the house; instead, use her name, tap him on the shoulder, ask her to look you in the
eye, or walk into his room.
> HYPERACTIVITY “Allow Your Child to Not Be Still”;
Whenever possible, permit your child to stand or move around; save “sitting still” for
essential times, like school or important events. Allow standing at the dinner table or
jumping around in the kitchen. Let your energizer bunny move!
> IMPULSIVIT Y “Take Brain Breaks”;
Our kids’ brains need more breaks than typical kids. Make time for play after school,
and between homework assignments. Allow occasional daydreaming to give their
creative brains a chance to re-charge.
> ORGANIZATION “Build in Processing Time”;
Give your kids time to think about things. Before jumping into “important” discussions,
introduce an idea and let kids “noodle” on it for a while—maybe minutes, or even days
—so they can pull their thoughts together.
> EMOTIONALIT Y “Make Mistakes Matter of Fact”;
Our kids get redirected so often they feel they can do nothing right, which is exhausting
for them. Let them know that everyone makes mistakes—including you. Show them
how you learn from mistakes, instead of trying to hide them.