GROWING UP WITH ADHD: THE MIDDLE YEARS
focus after 30 minutes, instead of
staying focused the entire 45 minutes.
Some instructors or coaches just
aren’t a good fit for kids with ADHD. If
you run into that, look for another
group or class.
You can advocate for your child during
family life too, by helping him reduce
stress as much as possible.
> Listen to his concerns and validate
his feelings.; Let
him tell you
whatever is on his
mind, and don’t
judge him for it.
his feelings and thoughts, whatever
> Find ways for your child to experi-
ence success, and often.; Those who
grow up with ADHD are bombarded
with messages that they are lazy,
defiant, or broken. We must show our
kids that they are just as deserving and
capable of success as anyone else.
Every success offers a child a little
> Make sure she knows you love her,
no matter what.; It’s hard growing up
feeling like you’re always letting
> Make a plan for any fears or
front.; My son
resists going to
the fireworks on
the 4th of July.
He likes fire-
works, but the noise and crowds
stress him out. We manage those
stressors by going to a neighboring
small town’s event, because it’s a lot
less crowded. And he wears noise-
canceling headphones during the
show, to reduce the sound. Now he
isn’t stressed about doing something
> An important part of our advocacy
is teaching our kids to advocate for
themselves.; As teens and preteens,
they begin to have the awareness
necessary to get help and accommodations before life becomes too stressful.
Helping your child live a happy and
successful life is advocacy in itself. You
are your child’s best and most knowledgeable supporter. Stand behind him
to ensure success. A
PENNY WILLIAMS is a mother of two who lives
in North Carolina. Penny is an award-winning
author of three books on parenting children with
ADHD. You can follow her parenting blog, Boy
Without Instructions, on ADDitudeMag.com.
child live a happy
life is advocacy.